Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Getting Back Into the Swing of Things

there is nothing like having a baby to completely throw your life upside down. everything you knew before is different. schedules go out the window. any ideas you had about how life with baby would be, forget them....so much becomes about surviving. for someone who is type a like myself...schedules, organization, to do lists are what i thrive on...so it's safe to say that those first few weeks of surviving were... rough.

but you do survive. and then the fog starts to lift and you see glimpses of a normal life again. schedules sort of start to emerge and you get into a rhythm. you see the light at the end of the tunnel. i feel like i'm starting to see that light and while i'm sure there will be plenty of road bumps along the way, i feel like i'm starting to find my footing.

Photos taken from fit4mom spokane's Facebook page

one of the things that has really helped me feel like i'm getting back into the swing of things is finding a workout routine. i started out going on walks with the little guy at about 3 weeks....we made it our mission that almost every afternoon we would head over to a local park and walk about a mile and a half. it made me feel normal again.

most recently, i joined stroller strides by fit4mom. stroller strides is a fitness program that helps mom get back into shape and workout with their babies. i've only gone to one session so far, but it already seems like such a great way to get back into shape as a new mom, and you get the added bonus of camaraderie with other mom's in similar situations. this is almost more important than the workout itself. the spokane group not only meets to workout, but also plans play dates and mom's night outs.  i'm so looking forward to future workouts with this great group of moms as well as play dates! (if you live in the Spokane area and have a little one....i highly recommend fit4mom!)

Photos taken from fit4mom spokane's Facebook page

as a new mom, what helped make you feel normal again?

Sunday, September 21, 2014


Happy Second Anniversary to my favorite guy in the whole wide world. I'm so happy I get to share this journey with you. This year feels extra special since we're sharing it with our precious baby boy. 

I love you husband!

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Lincoln James : Month 1

how has a month gone by already? this has definitely been both the longest and fastest month of my life!

we've had lots of changes over the past month....husband had to fly back to New York for work after 3 weeks of paternity leave with me and the little man, and the first week he was gone....woah, it has been a doozy.

lincoln and i have had lots of help from family, but nothing can really prepare you for those long, sleepless nights, especially when you're up and doing them by yourself. i knew it would be tough, but i don't think anybody really knows how tough it is until they're in the thick of it.

little man turned 1 month old on august 31st and i can't believe how fast the time has flown by! he is the best baby (i know all parents say that about their kids), but really truly, he's a pretty good baby. he definitely has his fussy period, which usually starts around 7 or 8 in the evening (earlier if we've had a busy day with lots of outings) but other than that time period, when he's super tired and fighting sleep, he doesn't fuss at all. he'll let me know when he's hungry or needs a diaper change, but overall he's a happy boy!

and boy does this little guy like to eat. he gets after it that's for sure, and as a result he is growing like a weed! In one month he gained 2.7 lbs and grew 1.5 inches! since he was such a little dude to start out, i couldn't be happier!

probably the most trying part of being a first time mama to little man is that this little guy just wants to be held. i'm happy to oblige him, 99% of the time, but it definitely makes things like showering, going to the bathroom or just getting basic household chores done a bit difficult. it also has been hard at night, when this mama needs to sleep and little man only wants to sleep on me. we're working on it though, and while the past 4 or 5 nights have been a little harder due to lack of sleep, little man is slowly but surely learning to sleep in a little rocker i have next to my bed as opposed to on my chest.

so far our days look a little like this:

sometime between 8 and 9 am, little man and i start our day, depending on what time he wakes up to eat. he gets fed, we change his diaper (which he absolutely HATES!) and mama makes her way to the kitchen for some much needed coffee. because he's a little bit more awake these days, we play for about 30-45 minutes (usually tummy time or on his play mat) and then as he falls asleep i put him in the mama roo (lifesaver!) and try and get a super speedy fast shower in. he only lasts in the mama roo for about 30 minutes, so when i say fast, i mean fast! (did i mention this little guy likes to be held ;0))

after i'm showered, and he starts to make it known that he wants to be held, i strap on the K'tan (which falls asleep in) and wear him while i get some stuff around the house done. this usually entails, spot cleaning, cleaning bottles, and preparing bottles for the day. (little man was fed a combination of breast milk i was able to pump plus formula until he was 10 days old, then i wasn't able to produce any more and he's exclusively formula fed now).

by 11 am or 12 pm, lincoln usually wakes up and wants to eat again, we feed him, change his diaper, and depending on the day, go out to run some errands, give lincoln a bath or my mom comes by to play with the little guy while i get more house stuff done or if lincoln wasn't having the mama roo that morning, my mom lets me shower, or i try and make some lunch.

around 2 or 3, the little guy wakes up again, and we feed and diaper him, and then go out for our afternoon walk! this is probably my favorite part of the day. it gets us out of the house and into the fresh air, and for the limited time little man's awake, he loves looking at the trees and clouds. he's a nature guy at heart, i can tell :). after our walk we head back to the house where lincoln finishes his nap.

our evenings have been a little sporadic depending on this mama's plans, but depending on the day, little man will wake up between 5 and 6 to eat, and at this point he's usually too tired to play so heads back to sleep again (we're working on keeping him up a bit later - my goal is to have his "bedtime" be around 9ish, but now we're just taking things day by day). sometimes in the evenings we have friends over, or we'll head over to nana and pop pop's house for dinner and some family time, or we'll just hang out here. we usually face time with husband between 7 and 7:30 and then start to wind down for the day.

when he wakes up again to eat between 9 and 10, we do our bedtime "routine." which includes  story time and then while he eats we listen to some lullabies and get ready for bed. by this point i try and lay down too, because i know we have a long night ahead of us ;0).

throughout the evening, lincoln usually wakes up once or twice to eat and then goes back to bed. when he was getting to sleep on me, he would only wake up once around 1-2 am and then again at around 5 or 6 am to eat and get a diaper change and then go back to sleep. now that we're working on sleeping in the bassinet he wakes up a little more often...usually around 1 am, and then again around 3 and once more at 6 am before we start our day between 8 and 9 am. the little dude just likes it way more sleeping on mama then in a bed, but we'll get it worked out sooner or later!

so there it is....a day in the life of lincoln. i know our days will change drastically as this little guy continues to grow and gets more awake and we learn to sleep better, but for now, we're soaking up every minute of it. i can't believe it's been a month already!

some quick stats:

height: 20 in
weight: 8.8 lbs
hates: diaper changes and being naked in general
loves: sleeping on mama, bath time,  tummy time and lullabies
head: holds it up briefly (yay for tummy time!)
eats: like a champ!
sleeps: we're working on sleeping in a bassinet next to mama's bed as opposed to on mama

Friday, August 29, 2014

Lincoln's Newborn Photo Session

if we're friends on Facebook, you've already seen these, but i can't help share them here too. this little blog is turning into an online journal and will be fun to look back on years from now.

the photos were taken by the very talented Jennifer DeBarros of Jennifer DeBarros Photography! She's a family friend, an AWESOME photographer and an all around sweetheart. If you're looking for  photos of any kind, i can't recommend her enough!

Tuesday, August 19, 2014


as you might imagine, my instagram feed has suddenly filled up with photo after photo of the most adorable little man i've ever laid eyes on. so this life lately post is all about the little guy.

 love love love this photo taken by my friend Amy (thanks Amy!)

 this one is also courtesy of Amy! 
our little man on the day he came home and getting ready for his first car ride ever! 

 mr. porter hasn't quite figured out that he's no longer the center of attention around here ;0)

 these two boys...i can't even

 i pretty much stare at his adorable face ALL DAY LONG

 mr. lincoln makes some quality facial expressions and we're trying to capture them all!

 this little dude....so much swag

 like father like son....totally husband's mini me

my little hipster ;0)

sorry if you're sick of seeing baby photos! i promise to post photos of other things sometime soon ;0)

Thursday, August 7, 2014

the very best day....and the hardest week ever

hi everyone! man, has it been a while since i've even tried to sit down and write anything. there are so many new and exciting things happening in the alexander household, so needless to say, this may be a doozy of a post.

i guess lets go back to the beginning....last wednesday, July 30th. i had a routine doctor's appointment scheduled and went in . i've been having trouble with my blood pressure the last few months i've been pregnant, and once again it had spiked. they sent me into triage to be monitored, and instead of going back down like it has in the past, it spiked really high....like crazy high, like 177/82 high. woah!

one of the last photos i took while still preggo (around 35 weeks)

my doctor told me that i wouldn't be going home that night, but instead was going to be induced. they also said it would be a process, most likely 2-3 days before little man would make his arrival. i got admitted and put into a room and my mom came down to be with me. kevin is working in new york right now, so i called him and he got on the very next plane he could, a 6 am flight that would land in spokane at 10:45 am. plenty of time to make delivery, or so we thought.

lincoln james alexander, born 7/31/14 at 7:14 am, 6 lbs, 1 oz and 18.5 inches 

my mom and i settled in for the night and the next morning around 5 (we didn't sleep very well) my mom got up to get us coffees (until i went into active labor, they were still letting me eat and drink regularly). while she was out, at 5:20 am, my water broke. i don't think the nurse believed me at first, but when she finally came in and saw me, her only comment was "woah, well that changes things."

almost instantly i started having contractions. they were mostly in my back and while they were uncomfortable, i wasn't in a huge amount of pain. i did however, keep wanting to get up and move around, and unplug myself from the monitors (because i was induced and because of the high blood pressure, i had to be constantly monitored).

at about 6:15 am, i started to get really shaky, and was in a lot of pain and went ghost white. they wanted to hook me up to the monitors right away to make sure baby was ok. he wasn't, and the next 10 minutes were probably the scariest of my life.

little man flat lined. his heart rate was nonexistent, and a team of nurses and doctors came rushing into the room. they started working immediately and told me i had to have a c-section right that minute, that lincoln was in distress and that they needed to move quickly. i threw my phone at my mom and told her to call kevin.

the doctors and nurses didn't miss a beat. i had to lie on my back and then move onto my hands and knees while they worked around me. they rushed me out of the delivery room, and ran with me down the hall to the OR, all the while working to get me ready for surgery.  i wasn't breathing well, because i was stressed out so they had oxygen on me and we're trying to calm me down. they told me that they were going to have to put me out completely, because there wasn't anytime for an epidural.

we got into the operating room, the big lights came down over me, they moved me to the operating table and were cleaning the incision point. at that point, the doctors told me they were going to put me out, and i woke up a few hours later, around 9:30 am.

on thursday, july 31, 2014 at 7:14 am our son, lincoln james alexander was born. i wasn't awake for it, but it was the best moment in the whole wide world.

lincoln was born via a "crash c-section." (an emergency c-section is when the mom has an epidural and a horizontal incision is made, a crash c-section is when mom has to be knocked out completely and typically a vertical incision is made because it is a life or death situation for either mom or baby) he had to be vacuumed out because he had already started to make his way down into the birth canal. as he made his entrance into the world, he breathed in amniotic fluid and it went into his lungs.

he immediately had to go up to NICU to be monitored, for what we told would initially only be about 4 hours. that 4 hours turned into the longest week of my life.

while overall he was healthy, the fluid in his lungs was causing breathing problems for him and they told us after the initial 4 hour monitoring that he was going to have to be admitted and a c-pap (breathing mask) would have to be put on to help him breath. he also had to start a round of antibiotics that could potentially last 7-10 days and would keep him in the hospital that long.

little man is a fighter though, and after 3 days he was able to go off the c-pap and stop antibiotics and we were told that he may even be able to come home early. they just needed to monitor his food intake and how well he was digesting everything and then we would get to go home! that was music to this new mama's ears.

on monday, we found out his biliruben levels were increasing (which causes jaundice) and that he would need to be monitored for another 24 hours to make sure that they didn't go into the danger zone. if they got too high, they were going to have to put him on "light therapy" to help break down the biliruben so he could pass it. we came in tuesday morning, to find the little guy stuck under intense UV lights and knew he wasn't coming him with us.

these little sunglasses protected his eyes from the uv light therapy he had to do. 

my mama heart broke and there were lots of tears that day. not only was he not coming home, he had to stay under the lights as much as possible, so we went from being able to hold him anytime we wanted, for as long as we wanted, to barely at all. he could only come out for feedings, and because he wasn't exclusively breastfeeding yet, he could only be bottle-fed, which meant no more skin to skin contact for me an my little man. i think i lost most of my water weight through my eyeballs that day ;0)

by wednesday morning his biliruben had dropped extensively and they were already weaning him off the lights! by 8 pm that evening he was off light therapy completely and we were told that as long as his biliruben levels continued to drop throughout that night, we would be able to take our little man home on thursday morning.

finally wire free, cord free, mask free and sunglasses free!!!

on august, 7, 2014, lincoln's one week birthday, little man came home with mommy and daddy. after the hardest week ever, we had the best day of our lives and baby boy came home with us.

one week old today and ready to come home! 

he's been home a little over 5 hours now and is asleep in his very own crib as i write this. i'm listening to him on the monitor, trying not to run into the room with every little sound he makes, and i couldn't be happier. this little guy has made kevin and i so very very happy and while he had a rough start, we're so excited for everything we're about to experience as a healthy family of four (our fur son is feeling a little left out right now, but he'll get used to him soon enough).

naptime for both both lincoln and porter (it's been an eventful day for these two!)

over the past week, we've felt so much love from so many people who have kept lincoln in their thoughts and prayers and have sent us texts and emails. we're so grateful for the wonderful people in our lives and can't wait to introduce mr. lincoln to each and everyone of you!


meghan, kevin and baby lincoln